One of the better movie quotes of all-time comes from a high-school student.
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it,” Ferris Bueller said. Even on his day off, Bueller still had some solid advice about enjoying the moment.
That’s especially important to do in times like these in my life.
Earlier this month, I proposed to my wonderful fiancée, Alicia. I’m calling her my fiancée because she said yes, and words have meaning.
That’s right, I’m getting married, and the vast majority of you aren’t invited. (Especially you. You know what you did).
I’m sure there are many questions about the wonderful news.
Where did you propose? A park!
What does the ring look like? Expensive!
Why did she say yes? No clue!
I won’t bore you with all of the details. Just know that I’m a very romantic man.
OK, I’ll give you one detail in particular. I proposed on May 6.
May 6 has been a significant day to me for a while. I’m pretty sure we all have our own personal Ides of March. Mine is May 6.
At 9 p.m. on that day some years ago, my fiancée told me no when I asked her to become my girlfriend. No. Nope. Nah.
That’s typically the end for most potential relationships, because it’s hard to maintain a bond if one person isn’t interested in continuing the bond.
However, through the power of communication, we talked about why she said no (concerns about my ex) which led to an eventual yes a few weeks later.
Years later, I chose to take May 6 and make something better for us. By us, I mean me. She never remembered the actual date of when she said no.
On the other hand, I remembered so much about that date: the location, the time, what we were doing. May 6 would sit on the calendar and taunt me with its May 6-ness.
I knew I wanted the feelings about that date to change, which is why I proposed when I did.
You might ask, “Why would you tempt fate like that?” “I laugh in the face of danger,” is my response. Also, I’ve been on a roll recently.
Not to brag, but 2019 has been pretty eventful for me.
As previously mentioned in The Mercury, I got promoted to news editor in February. Good news, I still haven’t been fired.
I’m now a fiancé. Good news, a beautiful, much more successful woman has agreed to marry me.
Now, tomorrow, on Memorial Day, I’m turning 30.
I’m very happy to turn the odometer on my age to hit the 30s. Honestly, I didn’t expect to feel that way even as recently as a few months ago.
Immature 29-year-old Bryan thought about missed opportunities. Wise-beyond-his-years, 30-year-old Bryan thinks about the future.
Immature 29-year-old Bryan thought about aging. Wise-beyond-his-years, 30-year-old Bryan thinks about aging … but in a positive way.
So as many of you prepare to take a day off like Ferris Bueller on Monday, you should do a couple of things.
Of course, remember those who died serving in the military.
But also, take a moment to stop and look around. Life actually does move a decent rate of speed.