To the Editor:
Two thousand years ago, someone said (according to the King James Bible) that we should worry about the beam in our own eyes and not the mote in someone else’s. In the song, “Get Over It,” by the Eagles, there’s a line that goes something like, “They point their crooked little fingers at everybody else, and spend all their time feeling sorry for themselves.”
The hardest part of dealing with any problem is admitting to yourself that you have it. You can’t make other people change, but you can change yourself. (If you try really, really hard.) That was a hard lesson for me to learn.
People can (and will) believe anything they want to, which is fine as long as they don’t try to force their beliefs on the rest of us. It’s about time (in my opinion,) that people quit talking to everyone else about doing what Jesus would do and start trying to understand what he said. Live the Golden Rule (which was a Chinese thought, but is good advice, even for a Christian) and not tell everyone else what to do. (Gee, it would be good if I could take my own advice! Oh, well.)
If you want to be successful, you need to work hard, work smart and have good luck. You cannot change your IQ, you cannot change your luck, but you can change how hard you work. Too many of us don’t understand that, again, you can change yourself, but you can’t force anyone else to change.
I have taught for about 35 years now. My students never understand, if they get a black sash or belt, why they get it and why other people do not. Some people have more talent, some have less.
One student that was very talented told me that he was so good because he worked so hard. (He did work very hard.) He had no clue how hard his less talented peers were working. As his teacher, I could see it, but he was so blinded by his own ego, he couldn’t see what was going on.
Hard work is good, talent is good, but you need the one more than the other, and you get farther by seeing yourself as you are rather than by the lens of an over -expanded ego. We (even me) all need to get over it!