The Pitbull of Personal Development wants everybody to listen up, get off of their butts or high horses, and truly start living.
Who could refuse such direct advice from Larry Winget? Haven’t we all heard this type of advice or self-help lesson before?
Well, perhaps. But surely not the way Winget enforces his opinions and experiences on a supposedly attentive audience and all the dutiful readers who consume his words of wisdom in the numerous books he has written.
Let’s make one thing clear: Winget is not a pitbull. Actually, his self-help materials are not linked to any dogs at all. But, Winget does believe that many pitbulls get a bad rap. So, please do not judge Winget by his appearance, manners (if he has any…and yes, he does) and the most God-honest truth anyone could bestow on family, friends, enemies, bosses, employees, husbands and wives, children and teens and college students, grandparents and just about everyone else left on earth.
Winget says, “The truth hurts. Hey, that’s why it’s called the truth.”
While he teaches the necessity of telling the truth, does it always have to be painful to hear the truth? Some people would gladly welcome knowing the truth.
Winget said, “This is my favorite book.” He refers to “No Time For Tact.” This is a compilation of his other books, meant to be funny, not too painful, but, sometimes, oh, so sarcastic. “No Time For Tact” resembles a 365-a-day guide to learning how to get the most out of one’s life, skills and talents, even accepting how failure and stupidity are far greater teachers than constant successful-wishing and an intelligence that surpasses Einstein’s, Picasso’s, Darwin’s or others who standout as geniuses.
Another thing is for certain: Winget is not a genius, but some of his philosophy makes sense.
Take a look at what Winget shares with his readers, right at the beginning on Jan. 1:
“Last year is over. Be done with it. Good or bad, it’s over now.
Maybe you had some good things happen last year—I’m happy for you. Now it’s time to go out and make some new good things happen. Maybe you had some bad things happen. Oh, well, welcome to life. Better luck next time.”
“Better luck next time”—does everything have to do with luck? Do people make their own luck? Can they alter their fate? Winget stresses that all goals in life, all answers to puzzling questions and circumstances, come from the self.
When it comes to the self, Winget points to the idea of self-help. He believes not only that there might be but there definitely is too much help from others and not enough from the self. So, are we supposed to think that what Winget says in “No Time For Tact” is not at all a self-help therapy session from one of the most powerful “gurus” of the speaker motivationists so prominent in today’s current society?
People might be more likely to believe that they are the only ones who can change, to acquire new life lessons along the way to discovering what enriches them and helps them to feel good about themselves.
Winget writes about this fact on the day designated May 1: “Human beings are the only species on earth that knowingly chooses to be less than it has the potential to be. No other living thing in nature chooses to be less than it could be.Only people do that. Did you ever see a tree grow to about six feet tall and say, ‘Eh, I’m good right here,” and then stop growing? No, a tree grows to be as tall as it can be….Rats, horses, pigs, and dogs all grow as much as they can. Fish and worms and amoebas all do the same….People are the only beings in the universe…who choose to quit earning and quit producing and quit contributing. People stop growing because they choose to, not because they have to or need to or should.”
For a May 1st life lesson, that one is pure power, unsinkable, from Winget who teaches universal principles that will (or are supposed to) work for anyone, whether that person is in business, struggles at home or in social life, or tends to focus on self-devaluation and self-criticism, which really can be both good and bad, if one looks at life that way.
I knew a woman who came to work each day with a smile and exuded such a radiant personality.
No day seemed impossible to her. If it was impossible, she just wouldn’t do it that day, a philosophy highly-supported by Winget.
When asked why she was so happy, never complaining, that is with the exception of enduring a headache every now and then, she responded by saying, “I LOVE life. Even the bad.”
Winget writes that no one wants to hear anyone complain. Maybe the complaining should be saved for a counselor, social worker or psychiatrist.
These people sure listen to a lot of complaints and troubles.
But, they, too, have their good and bad days. They might carry a burden with them at the end of the day when they head home. However,
they must learn to unwind or let go.
Like everybody else, there’s only so much they can do or say to help people understand who they are, what they want and how to get what they need.
Winget raises another positive point when he writes of “making it.”
Why many people are so stuck on “making it” baffles the author. As long as people are alive, that should be the main concern. Whether or not one “makes it” does not do the mind, body and soul any good.
For the most part, Winget delivers his message with confidence and personal trials and errors. Oh, yes, he’ll admit that he has had more failures than successes, but that it is the mistakes people make in life
that prove more educational than all the successes in the world. Where does one go and grow from there?
Readers might also want to check out some of his other published works that include “People Are Idiots and I Can Prove It!,” “It’s Called Work For a Reason,” “You’re Broke Because You Want to Be,” “Shut Up,
Stop Whining, and Get a Life,” “The Idiot Factor (in paperback),” and his new book on parenting, “Your Kids Are Your Own Fault.”
Winget might be recognized by many on A&E’s reality series, “Big Spender,” and in his appearances on CNBC’s “The Millionaire Inside.”
By the way, I was not one of those who immediately turned to the page/day of my birthday, as Winget suspects everyone is likely to do first. I’d say if you want to read Winget, you can go for it, or just simply wing-it. But, hey, what do I know!
Carol Wright is a freelance writer and resides in Winfield.